thoughts for the day

There are two advice/conclusion that my parents spoke to me about last night that I will like to put it here, to remind myself if need be. Something happened this afternoon that really pissed me off, i guess each of us have those hot-buttons that can evoke strong, drastic and negative emotions in us.

1. Do not (over)think what the other person will think. This might sound like WHAT?! I tend to think a lot, and not only do I think for myself, I think and CONCLUDE (that it must be true) for the other party too. This is definitely unhealthy and also unnecessary because I can be wrong.

2. The same action done by two different person can get two very extreme reaction from me. Basically, if I like you, you can do no wrong. The afternoon incident whereby someone I have a superficial colleague work relationship with, make a totally unnecessary and unprofessional remark (OMG, i realize he might be overthinking too. refer to pt 1), that got me really pissed. I know if another colleague who has establish a rapport with me, said something similar, my reaction might not as so.

A little part of me, love the me like that. Love and hate are distinct to me. But I have to admit, it does limit options and is judgmental.

something to think about

If you don't treasure me now, you sure don't deserve me at my best - can be applied to both work and r/s

Realize that life is fair, everyone has a choice. Never shortchange yourself

I can accept that you know you don't like someone after jus 1 meetup, but its ridiculous to like someone right

Sight reading

When I played clarinet in high school, I never practiced. I blamed it on my dog, who howled, but basically I was a lousy music student.

At my weekly lesson, though, the teacher would scold me, guessing that I'd only practiced three or four hours the week before. I was so good at sight reading that while I was truly mediocre at the clarinet, I was way better than anyone who had never practiced had any right to be.

We often test sight reading skills, particularly in job interviews. In that highly-charged encounter, we test the applicant's ability to think on her feet. That's a great idea if the job involves a lot of feet thinking, but otherwise, you're inspecting for the wrong thing, aren't you? Same with a first date. Marketing yourself to a new person often involves being charismatic, clever and quick--but most jobs and most relationships are about being consistent, persistent and brave, no?

- from Seth Godin blog

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