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VIA Survey of Character Strengths


Here are your scores on the VIA Survey of Character Strengths. For how to interpret and use your scores, see the book Authentic Happiness. The ranking of the strengths reflects your overall ratings of yourself on the 24 strengths in the survey, how much of each strength you possess. Your top five, especially those marked as Signature Strengths, are the ones to pay attention to and find ways to use more often.







Your Top Strength

Social intelligence

You are aware of the motives and feelings of other people. You know what to do to fit in to different social situations, and you know what to do to put others at ease.



Your Second Strength

Honesty, authenticity, and genuineness

You are an honest person, not only by speaking the truth but by living your life in a genuine and authentic way. You are down to earth and without pretense; you are a "real" person.



Your Third Strength

Judgment, critical thinking, and open-mindedness

Thinking things through and examining them from all sides are important aspects of who you are. You do not jump to conclusions, and you rely only on solid evidence to make your decisions. You are able to change your mind.



Your Fourth Strength

Citizenship, teamwork, and loyalty

You excel as a member of a group. You are a loyal and dedicated teammate, you always do your share, and you work hard for the success of your group.



Your Fifth Strength

Fairness, equity, and justice

Treating all people fairly is one of your abiding principles. You do not let your personal feelings bias your decisions about other people. You give everyone a chance.

thoughts for the day

There are two advice/conclusion that my parents spoke to me about last night that I will like to put it here, to remind myself if need be. Something happened this afternoon that really pissed me off, i guess each of us have those hot-buttons that can evoke strong, drastic and negative emotions in us.

1. Do not (over)think what the other person will think. This might sound like WHAT?! I tend to think a lot, and not only do I think for myself, I think and CONCLUDE (that it must be true) for the other party too. This is definitely unhealthy and also unnecessary because I can be wrong.

2. The same action done by two different person can get two very extreme reaction from me. Basically, if I like you, you can do no wrong. The afternoon incident whereby someone I have a superficial colleague work relationship with, make a totally unnecessary and unprofessional remark (OMG, i realize he might be overthinking too. refer to pt 1), that got me really pissed. I know if another colleague who has establish a rapport with me, said something similar, my reaction might not as so.

A little part of me, love the me like that. Love and hate are distinct to me. But I have to admit, it does limit options and is judgmental.

something to think about

If you don't treasure me now, you sure don't deserve me at my best - can be applied to both work and r/s

Realize that life is fair, everyone has a choice. Never shortchange yourself

I can accept that you know you don't like someone after jus 1 meetup, but its ridiculous to like someone right

Sight reading

When I played clarinet in high school, I never practiced. I blamed it on my dog, who howled, but basically I was a lousy music student.

At my weekly lesson, though, the teacher would scold me, guessing that I'd only practiced three or four hours the week before. I was so good at sight reading that while I was truly mediocre at the clarinet, I was way better than anyone who had never practiced had any right to be.

We often test sight reading skills, particularly in job interviews. In that highly-charged encounter, we test the applicant's ability to think on her feet. That's a great idea if the job involves a lot of feet thinking, but otherwise, you're inspecting for the wrong thing, aren't you? Same with a first date. Marketing yourself to a new person often involves being charismatic, clever and quick--but most jobs and most relationships are about being consistent, persistent and brave, no?

- from Seth Godin blog

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SIGHZZ

randumb

when it comes to matter of hearts, I am a newbie.

I went out on yet another group date set up by my cousins and it was again fun. . and its no credit to the guy again. Its a drag to have anything pre-arranged for me. Honestly, i went with a heavy heart due largely to my reluctance to be set up again. Plus, i met the guy before and know his past, AND know that its not possible between me and him.

there is not much going on in my life now except for work and family. There has been times when I wondered how long things will remain the same, and if I can continue to be as I am when the single girls become the minority in my cliques.

my parents think it is a concern that i am not giving chances, going out more. my colleagues wonder how am i going to meet somebody with my homey lifestyle.

i know you dont wait for chances. and especially, no one is gonna fall from the sky without me putting in the effort.

some people make it seem so easy. but not for me.

i started out this friendship determined to not play mind games. but i am beginning to and what really sucks, is that i think both parties get hurt in the end.

Trading your pain...

Trading in your pain

The pain of a lousy boss, of careless mistakes, of insufficient credit. The pain of instability, of bullying, of inadequate tools. The pain of poor cash flow, corrossive feedback and work that isn't worthy of you.

Pain is part of work. And it leads to two mistakes.

The notion that you can trade your way out of pain.

"If I just get a little bigger, a little more famous, a little richer--then the pain will go away."

This notion creates a cycle of dissatisfaction, an unwillingness to stick it out. There's always a pain-free gig right around the corner, so screw this, let's go try that.

The truth is that pain is everywhere, in every project and in every relationship and in every job. Wandering from one to another merely wastes your energy.

The other choice, though, is:

Embracing your current pain and avoiding newer, unknown pains.

This is precisely the opposite mistake. This leads to paralysis. Falling in love with the pain you've got as a way of avoiding unknown future pains gets you stuck, wasting your potential.

As usual, when confronted with two obvious choices, it's the third choice that pays.

- the Seth blog

I don't get what is the third choice, but I could relate to this article in so many instances..